I did something really embarrassing a few days ago. I thought it would be fine, but then I overheard people that I don’t even know talking about it in the union. I am mortified!
Word travels fast. All it takes is one uncomfortable slip-up for people to talk. Without knowing the nature of your embarrassing incident, it is hard to know the specifics of how to approach your problem. Let’s instead look at the root of the issue: caring so much what other people think.
Look at the numbers. There are 1440 minutes in a day. If someone talks about you for a generous ten minutes, that’s only taking up 0.7% of their time. Even though you happened to overhear these people talking about you, it’s likely they merely mentioned it in passing.
Moreover, think about how embarrassed you are by this incident — you are concerned with your image, your reputation, and your drama. Well, everyone else is doing the same exact thing with their own personal problems. The reality is, people are generally too preoccupied with their own life to be putting too much thought into others’. Sure, it might be an entertaining story now, but it will soon blow over once the next topic of interest comes along.
Finally, remember that even if people do talk about it for a long time, there’s nothing you really can do to stop it. Humans by nature are judgmental and often gossip. You can’t control what they say but you can decide how much it affects you. You wouldn’t truly be living the college experience without a few embarrassing moments. So go easy on yourself and don’t worry so much about the opinions of strangers.
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