Happy Valentines Day! In this romantic week it’s hard not to wonder about our dating lives. And hillsdating is its own can of worms. It’s so prevalent that Urban Dictionary even has an entry on it, noting that hillsdating is “a relationship where a guy and a girl who like each other spend every waking moment together but refuse to admit or agree that they are dating.”
If he’s walking you back to your dorm, eating meals with you, and texting you constantly — all while never actually implying that you are dating — those are signals you’re likely hillsdating. Another sign is if he flirts just enough to get you interested but could pass it off as “just being friendly” if he’s called out on it. What is your response when people ask you about your relationship status? If you reply by saying that you don’t really know what you are … then congrats, you’re hillsdating. At its core, hillsdating is the awkward stage between being friends and being a couple; the stage where you’re constantly confused about what your relationship is.
As far as being socially acceptable, that varies depending on your social circles. You may get teased a bit by your friends, but no one is going to shun you for it. Worry less about what other people are thinking about your relationship and decide what you want. Are you ready to go on an actual date or are you happy with the way you are hanging out now? If you want things to progress, communicate that with him. If he feels the same way, you have yourself a valentine!
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